Aside

lies and reality

Hi,

 

Today I was thinking about………the way people describe themselves boastfully………and their own actions contradict them later…….

I give you an example……..there is this girl…….. brilliant……..intelligent……..I got a chance to have a conversation with her………

she told me that she is ambitious………she is a devoted student and what not…………and that girls that go out with their boyfriends all the time……….have no purpose in life……….

and two days later I spot her in a mall………with a boy………I checked with her indirectly……….she didn’t entertained my question about how that day of hers went……….maybe she was not able to cook a story at such an short notice………..

well I am not judgmental……..but yes that was something that made me think…….

why would she lie to a person she hardly knows………..what was she afraid of…………

maybe if she was afraid she could have not said anything at all……….rather not boasted……..

maybe she was trying to impress me……….but as it turned out……..failed drastically…….and there is no believe left too……..

and I realized this was not the first time………memories rushed through my mind like a train of thoughts………

uncovering many other occasions when the truth unfolded itself………..maybe it was my negligence………that I didn’t realized the truth earlier……..

or maybe I put too much blind trust in people……….

perhaps there should be random and regular trust checks…………

anyhow…….I was thinking that as it keeps on happening……….I guess with loads of us……….what should be done………..learning from past is one…………but can it be avoided……like can it me understood then and there………..when the other person is lying………

there are people who would say they recognize when people lie……….but I guess in reality………..there would have been situations where even these people might have failed……

so coming back to the same point………how can we realize it……….is there an algorithm………..or a key in body language………..

but yes no-one likes to be lied to……..

its comes out like a crack in the wall……..and the wall gets weaker and weaker………..

till it collapses………or even if it is mended…………the signs of the repair remain…….

 

Advertisements

4 thoughts on “lies and reality

  1. When I was very young I started every person out with 100%; gave them the benefit of the doubt.

    By the time I was hit in the head one too many times by an anvil (Roadrunner – beep, beep) I flipped it around. Every person started at ZERO and had to prove themselves. Getting from 0 to 45% takes a long time, too long before I would grow frustrated; walk away from the poor bastard who had to leap tall buildings in less than 3 months. The person was left clueless and I was painted aloof.

    I strive to begin everyone at 40% now. Still a pessimist when it comes to human sincerity, honor and trust; I quietly wait for the person to fail me.

    It is far easier to be surprised by someone than shattered by them.

    Like

    • hey Tobey….firstly I really appreciate your comment….

      that’s a great response…..yup with the measures you have been taking I am sure you must have been painted aloof a lot of times……

      I am painted like that too…..most often….

      they call me pessimist……or introvert…..

      and yes no one has failed me or surprised me in a long time…..

      though I sometimes make exceptions…..and the outcome often turns out to be the latter i.e. shattered…

      I guess I should stop making exceptions too….

      and now I feel I am not the only one with these issues……. thanks!

      Like

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s